The mathematics of changed relationships.

 

We have been together for so many years. Also loves one another; But who knows why, I think that magical feeling has disappeared from us for a few days now. In all these years, we have come so close to each other that there is no innovation left in anything.

Rang De Basanti has a very beautiful dialogue. Aamir Khan used to tell his friends, "We dance life across the gate of college and we dance life beyond the gate of college!

I think something similar is happening in everyone's life. Because college is over and we all are so busy with our career and work, that all of us friends who don't even have a meal during college days, except once a month, can't even meet each other for six months, even if we live in the same city. It is not at all the end of friendship after college; But life has become so difficult nowadays that there is competition in career, job, business and even if you get time from it, your family, responsibilities towards it, good house, four wheeler and the bank installments you have to pay for it every month. In all of this, man is so preoccupied with proving himself that in all these situations, he does not have time to look at his friends, but sometimes he does not even have time to look at himself.

Sometime every four or six months, there is an event at a friend's house, and they visit each other, no matter what the occasion. Sharad met him at a similar event that day. Chatted. After questioning each other and simply asking, I said, ‘Now when do you and Swati invite to your wedding? Dad, you've been in a relationship for the last six years.

Are you thinking of getting married this year or not? ’He just smiled, took a cell phone out of his pocket and handed me a message from Swati. The message was, "I've been thinking of talking to you on an important topic for the last several days, but in the rush of work these days, we talk a lot. I went to the back of the house to get married, but the subject of your marriage came up, that I get confused. We have been together for so many years. Also loves one another; But who knows why, I think that magical feeling has disappeared from us for a few days now. In all these years, we have come so close to each other that there is no innovation left in anything. I don't feel any excitement about our marriage etc., the world etc.

I think that magical feeling is missing right now, but after marriage, it will still feel boring and then will our marriage last because of such monotony? I am so confused. "After reading her message, I just asked Sharad," What do you have to say about this? "He relaxed and said," Actually, I think so too. I'm just as confused as she is. Anyways let's see! "In fact, I should have been surprised by the attitude of Swati and Sharad; But I didn't feel that way. Because this is now becoming the lifestyle of our young generation. You may be wondering, these guys who have been in a relationship for five or six years. How can these kids, who are huge and passionate about each other when they fall in love, get bored of each other in just four-six years? There are actually many reasons for this; But I think the most important of the reasons is the way in which technology has been made available to our generation at an affordable cost. It was fine until the phone rang, but it was a smart phone And our generation began to miss the math. Connectivity has become so cheap, from incoming charges to today's double-data offer, and from trunk calls to today's free calling apps like WhatsApp and Skype, that we can get into each other's lives and see each other as we please. We used these means of expression, which we got to use almost for free, so much that we never thought about whether we would have anything left to say for the rest of our lives. Technology has brought us so close that over time we have become bored of being close to it. At the same time, I think there is another important reason, It is the determination of our generation to enjoy the pleasures of life even before marriage. We can see our generation laughing out loud at each other saying ‘Saale ek sal ho gaya relationship ko aur abhi tak ushe saath kafi nahi piya’ or our young generation who just want to enjoy each other by parking cars in the corner.

These kids who enjoy the most delicate and tender moments in the world in such a way, when I call this deformity a thrill, I feel sorry for them. We are not even aware that we are squandering a slow unfolding relationship of justice like a hawthorn, and even if we do, we are so confused ... So he tries to end the subject. Unfortunately, this is becoming our lifestyle.